Now, now, Flyboy, don't say harsh words or the Nannies will come and "correct" your behaviour.
Rites of initiation are no longer considered acceptable. There is no longer "succeed or fail", but rather we now recognize only "effort"; that is, we now set the bar so low that any idiot can "achieve" - hell, just look at the way some people drive and you'll see what I mean. So, no, you can't subject a new member of the tribe to indignity, stress, or discomfort, as this may preclude some sensitive type from making an effort.
Your future comments will be monitored for compliance, and re-education may be mandated.
/nanny-state sarcasm off