Roost Air Lounge => General Discussion => Topic started by: Frank N. O. on January 30, 2008, 07:15:46 PM
Title: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on January 30, 2008, 07:15:46 PM
Since I now got two pm's telling me several people are thinking of my mom and I then I'm posting this thread.
My mom has now been in the hospital for over a week (she was admitted in the late morning on last wednesday while on hospital grounds to check if there are any aids she can use to read etc.). She's feeling better but she lost braincells and further had brain damage this time (she had a ct-scan, and with epeleptic seizures there's always irreperable braincell loss, and my mom's seizures lasted hours). Part of the reason she's still in the hospital was since they wished to take some tests to see if the medicin was working right and what damage had been done, and for the first time my mom was not urging to come home no matter what, but she also said that she wouldn't be quite the same now due to this incident and she'd generally need regular nursing care which I simply can't do.
I've been able to handle things here just fine, doing the groceries, getting some food, paying the bills etc. but it's been hell to know my mom has now gone one step worse :(
She should be home this week some time since most tests have now been done but what will happend after that is beyong my knowledge, except that she needs to talk to the home nursing department to see what help she need at home.
Still trying to save money up for a practice flight lesson although I still haven't asked if I can at all fit in the plane and have it within MTOW (that's the term right? Maximum Take Off Weight?). I haven't done any morning walks for over a week, however daily visits to my mom and some shopping and such have given me some daily walks instead.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: undatc on January 30, 2008, 10:09:26 PM
Sorry to hear about your mom man. Hang in there, things will get better.
As far as the plane thing,
1) try to find a cessna, if i remember correctly, they have a higher useful load. Also you can drain the tanks to tabs to give you some extra weight allow. The only problem with this is that it usually moved your CG. But usually you can compensate by throwing a flight bag or a sand bag or something in the baggage compartment, so no biggie.
2) the trick i had to use, was find a skinny girl for a CFI. They weigh less so you can weigh more. I think I was sitting around 260-270 when I did my PPL and using the tabs, as well as the female CFI worked out well. I had issues when it came time for check rides though as all the check pilots were males and big guys. We had to fudge the numbers a bit those days....
Good luck, hang in there.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Baradium on January 31, 2008, 01:35:20 AM
Go for a C172 or a piper for your first flights. I wouldn't try a 152, those are tight for even small folks. Even if you can fit in one (you probobly can actually fit) a 172 would be much more comfortable.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Mike on January 31, 2008, 03:30:52 AM
Since people are giving advice...here are my 2 cents:
Don't forget about your dream and hang on to it, but
take care of your mom for now!!
You only have one mom and it seems she needs you. Those 152's or 172's or whatever will always be there. And don't let yourself go so you can get your max gross down and help your mom......
I'd toss my 7000 flight hours back in a heartbeat if I could trade them for more time with my mom.......
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: PiperGirl on January 31, 2008, 03:02:33 PM
I'd toss my 7000 flight hours back in a heartbeat if I could trade them for more time with my mom.......
|:)\ Well said. Tell your mom that all of us at da coop are thinking about her and wish her and you well.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 01, 2008, 10:35:13 PM
About the plane then the lesson with the Grob was 3x as long for less place than the two places with a Cessna, which had 70s 172-models (150hp).
About my mom, thanks for all the greetings I've passed them on. However my mom has taken a turn for the worse and is still in the hospital and that's just the start. There've been some weird things going on and I don't know who to believe anymore, my mother who says one thing, the nurses and doctor who says something else or my brother who says something third about what the BEEP is going on. I am really not feeling well because I can see my life falling apart as my mom gets more sick than ever, and faster than ever. I don't mind, in fact I probably need to talk some more but that shouldn't be in the forum but rather in a private chat or via pm/email.
I'm carrying on to keep my sanity because I know that I can't find any other solution for this weird and horrible situation but that still doesn't help since our mom did not feel good when we had to leave after having been there a while after having to drive home again to find out some more and then back to the hospital.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: FlyboyGil on February 02, 2008, 12:37:42 AM
Hope your mom recovers quickly |:)\ |:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: AirScorp on February 02, 2008, 01:25:58 AM
It's going to be ok Frank! Hope your mom recovers soon!
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 02, 2008, 10:20:14 PM
Thank you all for the greetings, however what's going on does not seem to be something that will get much better, so my mom will most likely need more care when she gets home than before, and that means she need to get county assistence since it's beyond what me and/or my brother can do :( When my brother and I visited this evening she was even worse than yesterday, despite it seeming like her medicin is being handled correctly, with an increased dosis to help against further seizures, but sadly several other bad things has happend to her while being there so she probably won't be home until next week at the earliest.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Mike on February 02, 2008, 11:30:40 PM
Sorry to hear that buddy!
Hope your brother and you can work together and help eachother out.....
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Fabo on February 03, 2008, 11:00:11 AM
Well, I am not going to say things like it is going to get better, she will recover quickly, no worries...
We all know she wont recover quickly, if ever at all, and we all know there just cant be no worries when you love her (and we all know you do)
I just want to tell, that no matter what happens, the Coop will be always there for you Frank, and in case the "worst" happened, just remember, that she would be gone of her earthly sorrow, and she would be in a better place of eternal happiness.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on February 04, 2008, 03:35:03 AM
Things can sure be difficult sometimes, but I'm very glad that you can be with your Mom, Frank. Very often we get far away from people we care for, and it's hard to scramble back to help. She's surely thankful for your time and help there. That's wonderful. |:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 05, 2008, 09:01:09 PM
Well, we've now gotten some news. It seems there's a full body infection, and there's something wrong again with my mom's stomach (a couple of years ago she had her intestines bunched together, not sure what it's called, maybe that's it), she getting a scan tomorrow for it. Sadly it also seems she's gotten pnemonia know (I think that's the word, a lung infection) and she's maxed out on pain killers but sadly it's not quite enough, but they dare not give her anymore. And as if that's not enough then one a x-ray, one of several different scans etc. done in the now 2 weeks she's been in, showed she has 2, what in danish is known as discopolaps. I think it's a part of the spine that's dislodged or something like that, and she has two of those, and it's making her back tilt sideways, and then of course giving her a lot of pain. Still no idea when she's comming home but a lady from the county is comming over to her in the hospital tomorrow to talk about what they can help her with.
Thanks for the thoughts and good wishes. Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 08, 2008, 10:22:20 PM
Well, when I was out at my mom at around 3 pm then she'd just had a small heart-attack although one that the nitro spray could cure, and the nice old lady in the bed next to my mom had woken her up as she thought something was wrong, which there was, it's a nice old lady who's also lived in USA and one of her children lives in LA with her husband and they were actually over here a few days ago and also talked to us, very nice people indeed.
My mom's stomach is a little better, it was the same problem as I described above that had happend again and some help had been given. The pnemonia had gotten under better control so my mom is slightly better but there's still a long road to go it seems. She thanks for the greetings and thoughts.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on February 09, 2008, 12:06:50 AM
It's nice of you to keep us posted on your Mom, Frank. I'm glad she is feeling a little better! :)
I'm glad she has such a sweet "roomie" nearby. I hope she knows lots and lots of people are thinking of her. :D
S'Mom***
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Baradium on February 09, 2008, 12:35:58 AM
Best wishes with everything frank.
I think the intestine stuff with it bunched together is called cholic? But I think I spelled it wrong and I'm not even sure if it's the right term anyway.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 15, 2008, 02:15:43 AM
Well, one step forward, two steps back. It was the plan that my mom were to come home today friday, but that's no longer the plan. My mom had a second heart-attack and her blood-pressure has been so low the doctors couldn't understand my mom was alive, I think she said 60/40, later when Michael and I were there it was 70/55.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on February 15, 2008, 06:30:51 AM
I'm glad you can be with her Frank, that is such a help for her. I'm sorry for her setback today, but she is where the care is the best. Keep your chin up and know that many people are thinking of you and the rest of your family.
|:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 21, 2008, 04:05:34 AM
Ok, as I said in the chat earlier then things are looking up again. 4 of the main problems my mom had including pnemonia and blood-plate problems are now fixed. The bloodpressure is still low but at least more than the 20 over something it was at one point. There are still some things that needs to be done before she can come home but at least it's looking up.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: PiperGirl on February 25, 2008, 02:56:04 PM
Glad to hear things are looking up a bit Frank. Sorry, I've not been able to access chickenwings for a while (traveling and laptop battery died :-[ ) so I have some catching up to do... But it's good that things are going better!
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Rooster Cruiser on February 25, 2008, 03:13:36 PM
Frank, here's hoping to your mother getting better and coming home. |:)\ I know its tough on you. You and your mom are in our prayers here as well.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on February 26, 2008, 03:27:20 AM
Thank you all for the kind thoughts, I've relayed them again to my mom ::wave::
Originally the plan was that she could come home friday (yes last friday, as was said the week before last as well) but she's still in the hospital due to arguments between doctors if she could/should get a headscan. She finally got it, an MR-scan I think, and it showed that there was no damage to her brain at all so that's good news. Still no reply on a liver-biopsy a few weeks ago but things are at least status-quo, and then the good result from the scan. Blood-pressure is still low last I heard but not that bad compared to the other life-threatening level she had a week or so ago (20 over something).
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on March 11, 2008, 04:33:22 AM
Sigh, I was about to write that my mom was home now, but the joy has just been overshadowed by waking up at 5 AM by rustling noises and finding my mother sitting on the floor after falling and she couldn't get up at all, and had been trying to for a while. She tried to right away clean up the mess she'd made in the fall, despite me having to hold her to make sure she didn't fall again, and after a long while she finally sat down, I called my brother, and then she got up and fell again! And of course she says she's fine. My nerves are shot right now. And she says she's fine, she don't want to go to a nursing home and sit with other old folks, but after just 5 minutes I'm totally exhuasted from holding her despite having slept for 10 hours straight! I'm waiting for my brother to come over now, he should be here in a few minutes.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: airtac on March 11, 2008, 01:26:27 PM
AW Gee Frank, I know it's hard but you're doing a good job---stick to it, you're tougher than you realize!!! |:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on March 11, 2008, 03:55:12 PM
hang in there frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on March 12, 2008, 04:44:27 AM
Ok, shortly after I posted this, my brother called back, and our mom came in and wanted to say that her balance was fine now. A few minutes later I had to rush in and yes she'd fallen again. Then after a shower she fell again. And after 1 hour directly following 10 hours non-stop sleep I was shaking, had a headache and was out of comission for a long time. When I was out to the pharmacy to pick up medicin I called home to double check something on the prescription, she didn't reply the phone after 10+ rings and I had a bad feeling and rushed home. When I came in she was standing up in her room, but told me that she had indeed fallen and was desperately trying to get up as I called, and it took a long time and exhuasted her. And that's just part of the problems she has atm.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on March 13, 2008, 08:50:28 AM
Phew, finally some good news. It would appear my mom needed some rest, both physically and mentally. Yesterday she was so much better after having slept both the whole night and the afternoon after her falls. She's still hurting from all the bruises but she's so much more clear and walking like she did about before her hospital stay, and while she's needed to hold to the furthiture to double check her balance indoors, and use two crutches when walking outside then it's still a lot better than tuesday.
Sadly now out clothes drier broke so that's more money to spend, although I think it's lasted for years. Maybe today we can go thrue the bills and reciepts from during her nearly 7 weeks in the hospital so I can find out how much I owe her so I can get that settled and start on getting my next flight. I'm writting an email to one of the two places that had a practice lesson with a 172 to find out their price since it wasn't listed.
Mike (from PM): I'll pass on your hi to my mom when I see her now, thanks :)
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Rooster Cruiser on March 13, 2008, 03:49:39 PM
Frank, that's a relief. Glad to hear your mom's feeling better. Welcome home and a big wave to Frank's Mom from the SoCal Desert! ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave:: ::wave::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on March 13, 2008, 04:25:11 PM
Thanks, I'll tell her. At least she's feeling alright, again. Just after chatting with Mary and the Scot I found my mom strangely tired despite having slept 9 hours, and then just after I heard her call and I found her on the floor, she'd had another but small seizure. The home help came to help her get up and stuff and she slept for 5 hours again and after been awake a couple of hours she's starting to come back to normal. My brother who came home not long ago, said mom said the coffee tasted weird last night where he was also home (he thought it tasted just fine), and he's seen that before, it's a sign that a seizure is comming within half a day or so, and it was right again.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on March 13, 2008, 05:48:13 PM
"and the scot" ill take that as a compliment frank lol
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on March 25, 2008, 08:30:50 PM
That was the intention, although it was because I was only 99% sure what your real name was so I thought a polite respectful nickname was ok, especially in this crowd.
Thanks for the pm btw and sorry to all for the long time since last post however I've been a bit tired, but I got some coke (the wet brown stuff that's best enjoyed in a glass with ice ;)) so that helped a bit, plus I got some great adventure games on sale so I got something to focus on while waiting.
Just came back from seeing my mom and dude was it really a springtime drive, snow all over the road, almost white thrue the windshield and could spin the wheels from idlespeed with the clutch released, up to 3rd gear even, and not even with half throttle. The ABS got some excercize too, despite stopping much earlier than normal and dnot driving in recent tracks which in this weather is slippery since it's just 0.8C over freezing so the snow was semi slushie and that's really slippery. Over noon it was hot and sunny and I drove with the vent on full cold in the face. The worst was that my brother was on his motorcycle behind me and he had some trouble since a person thought it was just like driving a summerday so he kept half a carlength from my bother when he was doing 30-35 kph on a road covered in snow so there were no stripes to be seen or even the edge of the road (it has a 60kph limit). I got a few photos after comming home and I'll upload them shortly. Just one more comment, man do I miss a rear windshield wiper!
Ok, to my mom. First things first, she's ok and such but still waiting for an EEG result, now here's the story. I guess I haven't updated this a while, but the former saturday she was visited by a county nurse and a doctor that was called to talk to my mom and after talking back and forth, also talking to the hospital ward she was in until that monday, it was then decided she needed to go back to the hospital. She was driven there a few hours later by an ambulance. Sunday morning I was called up the hospital and that they couldn't get in touch with my mom, she didn't respond to anything which is unusual, both if she's really tired or even if she was having an epeleptic seizure. I came out there right after the call and it was indeed true, not a muscle pulled, not a single attempt at a noise from her vocal cords. She finally regained conciesness (probably misspelled) later that afternoon but was really drowsy, even worse than the tuesday, thursday, friday and saturday she was at home but after a few days it was a little better, but still not like she was before, or even that wednesday while she was at home. They'd feared brain hemoragin (spelling?) so they'd scanned her that sunday morning but nothing was there so it wasn't that after the falls where she also hit her head an unknown number of times.
Yesterday the son-in-law and daughter of our old family friends Lis and Niels visited when they were driving past Odense from a family visit and today my mom got a call from Lis who she talked with a long time. My mom is still not at full strength and no word yet on what on earth is the matter but hopefully the EEG will tell something. My mom however got word that she will come home in 3 days or so, by then the county nursing staff should be ready to come several times a day to help my mom with everything she needs, medicin, bathing etc.
Michael and I will be comming to the doctor rounds tomorrow before noon to hear in closer detail how our mom is doing and hopefully then the EEG results will have arrived and we can talk with the doctor about how she's doing and what the imediate plan of action is.
Needless to say, while I was close to send an email to the flight school to talk in closer detail about the practice flight then the news of my mom's condition that sunday morning put a halt to it. At least my brother and I have had some fun driving on local computer network in a good old cargame called Need For Speed 4 (it's 10 years old but still fun and it's easy to make new cars for it and there are fun copchases in it (note: despite the news saying so, Need For Speed has never ever had the goal of driving people down or stealing cars, in fact there are no pedestrians in the game and you can't steal another car on the road, that's Grand Theft Auto, not NFS)).
I'll try to see if I can get in the chat sometime, I miss the good people. Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Fabo on March 25, 2008, 08:53:07 PM
Just a bit off-top - I also enjoy good ole NfS 4 and 6 (HP2) - even better with all the memories.... ::whistle:: too bad you are on local network, I would be glad to drive with you a bit (maybe Hamachi can help?)
Edit: I am on the chat ATM so maybe we can talk it there - will be for at least until 2215
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on March 25, 2008, 10:07:27 PM
good to hear from you frank, and its about time you started getting help from the local authorities for you mum. listen take care and take it easy.
from the "Scot" ::wave::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on April 01, 2008, 09:31:28 PM
Ok then (btw this is not an april fool's joke), my mom came home yesterday and today she still hasn't fallen at least, although as expected and against her promises she's flown low all over the house trying to get things done. It seems she won't get as much help as was hoped, only part of it. Michael and I are still trying to get her to calm down but our options are limited.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: PiperGirl on April 02, 2008, 02:13:35 AM
Yea! Franks Mom is home again :)
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on April 02, 2008, 03:26:30 AM
Frank, I'm sure you know this, but we all hope that your Mom continues to make progress, and things get back to normal soon for all of you.
Which, of course, is more than can be expected for THIS bunch of your friends. HA!!! ::loony:: ::rofl::
Please give her our best, from all of the places where she's being thought of! :)
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on April 02, 2008, 08:56:41 AM
Hey S'Mom im Odd and im proud of it ::loony:: ::rofl::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: airtac on April 02, 2008, 02:40:03 PM
Hey S'Mom im Odd and im proud of it ::loony:: ::rofl::
"Odd"---I don't know, there are other words that come to mind that can't be posted-----------Oh heck--I guess that includes most of us ::loony:: ::loony:: ::loony::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on April 05, 2008, 05:25:32 PM
Just an update, apart from my mother having a bad coughing fit last night where I called a nurse out and my mom's temperature was high then she's doing fairly well under the circumstances. No falls so far and she's been eating and sleeping but still with a clearer head than last time, almost like before she was hospitalized. We also got the finances sorted and I'm sticking with running a solo economy from now on. No idea yet though on when next flight is possible.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on April 05, 2008, 07:47:14 PM
Glad to hear that things are going along alright, all things considered! ::wave::
:) :) :)
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on April 19, 2008, 08:52:01 PM
Well my mom is now good, but it looked very bad just some days ago.
That temperature kept rising, and monday the home nurse called a doctor out but he said there was no need to go to the hospital and there was no infection as the nurse was suspecting. However neither one of us liked that call was on alert and just a few hours later I came into my mom's room after hearing noises and found her completely out of touch, sounding like she was trying to moan in pain but had it sound choked, also like there was fluid in her lungs and I called 112 on the spot and they quickly sent an ambulance and a doctor-ambulance (here it's a marked Mercedes ML with lights and sirens with a doctor and assistant to give a fast diagnosis on location). After checking her up and not getting in touch with her my mom was driven to the hospital with lights and sirens just after 11PM. That morning we were called by the hospital saying our mom had a 40C fewer, 1C from fatal, and they weren't sure if she'd survive. Holy hell was I shaking like crazy, and only partly because I was woken up after having gotten just a few hours sleep. She did however survive but it wasn't fun seeing her in pain and burning up for hours! She was so hot I couldn't even hold 1 fingertip on her face for more than half a second before it hurt. She was completely out of it, as she was when she was picked up by the ambulance and moaning in pain kind of on and off like she was going in and out of conciousness. She did wake up later that day but wasn't really all there until a day or two later (she couldn't remember much until then, not even that we were there). They found out she had a low bloodlevel and gave her four doses of blood (about 1L total) and a few days later she's now clear in the head (as much as possible after the braincell damage from the long seizures etc.). They found she indeed had an infection, something the original doctor who was called out should have noticed (it was the catheter, and the contents of the bag was clearly evident of an infection just by looking at it). She's getting antibiotics for three infections and is so far doing ok. We're all suspecting it could be the lack of the promised home help that caused the infection in the first place since personal hygiene and catheter help etc. was something the hospital had said she should get as well as more, but she only got 1 person that put out a bottle of water and a morning breadroll and that's it. No checking she got her pills taken, bathroom help etc. And now they're on strike so they won't come (both home help from the county and most nurses in hospitals, except the ward my mom is on since it's life-threating).
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on April 19, 2008, 10:12:20 PM
bluddy hell frank this could not of come at a worse time then. hope your mum gets better soon my thoughts are with you chief.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on April 20, 2008, 05:10:22 AM
I sure hope things settle down and improve for you all, Frank. You've sure had a go of it!
:)
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: airtac on April 20, 2008, 07:30:38 AM
yeah
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: PiperGirl on April 21, 2008, 12:21:32 PM
keep up your courage Man. I'm glad your mom is in the ward where the nurses aren't /can't strike... |:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on May 13, 2008, 05:28:22 PM
Ok, another update. My mom was released last week from the hospital to a rehabilitationcenter where she could get excercise to get her strength and daily rhythm back to normal so she can handle herself back home like before, hopefully. However the day after, where she was walking badly and was acting tired and disorientating again after the bloodtransfusion helped, then she was waiting for an ambulance when I arrive before noon. It seemed to be a small seizure but she was awake and back at the center that evening, then the following morning they couldn't get in touch with her so she was driven out again, this time the ward she was at said they (a specific nurse) that it was herself that did it, psycho-something. It does appear that our mom is under a lot of stress although at first sight she seems fairly normal and clear, but when hearing what she says, and how her SMS' look then she's not ready to come home we thing. I saw her today and she seemed to finally accept to stay at least for the next few days (she's worried about the 20 or so USD it costs a day). I'm still very watchful and have in fact started to see what kind of place my 11-year seniority in the home-club I got could give me (it's a company or such that can have rental homes that will be rented out on seniority while some are put under the control of the county they're in, to be used in emergency cases, for elderly people and students depending on the type of home).
On another note then I made an apointment for the Lancer's first service and found that it's interval wasn't 1 year or 20K km but 1 year or 15K km and the car is at 19670 atm so I'm now a bit vervous that I've void the warranty or such. And before that I thought the 20K km limit on the insurance was nervewrecking.
Btw, to remind you people in North-America about one of the many great things you got then here's todays price for 1 liter unleaded RON 95 gasoline at Shell near here: 11.12 DKK which equals 8.75 USD/us gallon
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: PiperGirl on May 14, 2008, 12:43:36 PM
Quote
Btw, to remind you people in North-America about one of the many great things you got then here's todays price for 1 liter unleaded RON 95 gasoline at Shell near here: 11.12 DKK which equals 8.75 USD/us gallon
Ouch... That's gotta hurt the bank account... :-[
Say Hi to your mom from all of us at da 'coop ::wave::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on May 16, 2008, 12:53:36 PM
Actually it's not that bad since I average 34 mpg US in city driving in the car (2007 Mitsubishi Lancer 1.6) but we've got bigger problems now.
Michael (my older brother) and I went to meet with our mom and two people from the rehabilitation center this morning and they could tell us that the hospital ward had now closed our mom's treatment and the doctor's said our mother would no longer be accepted if she came there. Long story short, her decreased health including regularly loosing consciousness etc. is permanent so our mom can no longer live at home since it's incredibly risky compared to living in an apartment in a protected area aka nursing home area. After initially totally refusing then she reluctantly accepted to apply for a place after getting promises about seeing what can be done with the old debt we have and being told that I was ready to move out on my own since I'm totally unable to protect and care for our mom now she's that bad. Even with all this she worries about money and me but that was settled, at least temporarily. I put myself on the active searching list at the home-club I've been a member of for 11 years so I hope I got a shot. And I'm going to look for a late 90s Ford Mondeo which is my dreamcar and which should be fitting to my need as well. This however means that my dream of visiting USA and maybe even stay and become a pilot has moved far away due to financial issues :'(
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on May 16, 2008, 04:36:12 PM
sorry to hear about your mum frank :( as some one who works with the eldery just now i now how hard it is but she will be better off getting profesional help and care you cant cope on your on if you mum is like this. but keep your chin up your dream will come round again, for the mondeo look at auto trader web site over here should be able to find a cheap ex sale's rep car but i suppose the shipping will be afactor unless you can come over and drive it back.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Mike on May 17, 2008, 05:54:24 PM
Man, I am sorry to hear about that Frank. I know how big that step is, especially since everybody knows what it means . . . Been there myself. My mom also changed right after while she was trying to come to terms with this last big step. I can't even imagine how that must feel for a mom who used to be taking care of everybody for a living to now having to be taken care of.... My heart goes out to you. Hang in there buddy.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: TheSoccerMom on May 18, 2008, 02:56:42 AM
Frank,
Just an echo to the wishes here.... sure hope that things settle into a new routine soon and that your Mom will be confortable and well cared for. It's not easy but it's good you are there to help her.
|:)\
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Fabo on May 18, 2008, 04:05:06 PM
Good luck to you three Frank, I hope you will cope well...
Ian, I am afraid Dans drive on right side of the road instead of wrong one like you...
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on May 19, 2008, 08:16:15 PM
ah that's just a inconvenience fabo got plenty of cars that have the wheel on the opposite side to the norm for us.
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: FlyboyGil on May 19, 2008, 09:43:56 PM
ah that's just a inconvenience fabo got plenty of cars that have the wheel on the opposite side to the norm for us.
Hey, I just realized we have right hand drive vehicles over here----they're called garbage trucks ::rofl:: ::rofl:: ::rofl:: ::rofl:: ::rofl:: ::rofl::
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Oddball on May 22, 2008, 07:01:01 AM
uhuh and we can the lefties P.O.S's ;D :D ;)
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on June 01, 2008, 06:14:23 PM
Well unless the county pulls a rabbit out of the hat then I can kiss a mondy goodbye, as well as any other personal transportation since the bank declined my request for a loan, saying I had too little money left after expenses, and those expenses was a unrealistically low car insurance. An old 97 Mondeo without even power windows costs as much in Denmark as a nice clean well-equipped US Focus SE Zetec from 2000/2001 btw. Denmark really sucks for me :( And of course if I can't even loan 12-12K USD for a Mondy then 3x that to go stateside and get a CPL must be totally out of the question.
My mom still isn't doing too well and has fallen several times and no news on when she can move to her new home. My brother is still working on his bachelor which is due on the 12th and then the 26th is the last exam, unless something bad happends with our mom at which point he'll take leave since this is eating him up as much as it is me.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on June 04, 2008, 12:13:31 AM
"Sigh" the county-lady I talked to says that with regards to transportation then the only thing the county will do is to look at a application for a handicapcar which has to be factory-new and not cost more than 145K DKK which doesn't buy much of a new car, not that I'd want a new car anyway (new in terms of technology and control-layout and standard equipment, not in terms of wear and tear of course, if I could then I'd make a brand new Mondeo from spareparts but the lack of a factory VI-Number would be a problem).
And today the hospital ward that said in writing they considered our mom's treatment closed and wouldn't recieve her again, admitted her back. She fell again, and was hurt badly according to what I was told earlier from the staff and the physical rehabilitation center our mom is staying at. My brother and I just don't know what to do anymore. It's just unbearable to see and (try to) talk to our mom now due to what's wrong with her. My brother is one step from taking a leave from his bachelor, just 22 days before the last final, due to how much this situation affects him mentally, and I can't say I'm feeling any better myself. There have been so much conflicting information that I don't know who to trust anymore, and the cases the information is about has major concesequences for our lives. First they say she's doing fine and enjoying the stay at the center, then they say the hospital wrote they wouldn't accept her anymore, then another staff member said our mom had been very sick and hard to reach and sleeping almost constantly (which I also saw for myself a few days ago when I visited her, very briefly since it was unbearable to be there and I couldn't really understand her anyway), then they say I can get help from the county, then one countyperson says I can't, then the staff member said that the countyperson said I could get help, now our mom's sick again, then the hospitalward that wouldn't treat her anymore is treating her...... ::knockedout:: :( :'(
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on June 21, 2008, 04:27:28 PM
Well, after being signed out of the hospital again after falling and breaking her nose twice in a few days then she was checked out for any mental problems by the psychiatric ward and was cleared right away. A few days ago we were at the dementia clinic where our mom was also cleared from any such issues however the doctor noted during the meeting that our mom seemed to be strongly affected by medicin, overmedicated that is to the point that it slowed her down and that's what Michael and I have been thinking after one area after the other was said to be ok. One of our mom's meds has been reduced in dose and she seems a little clearer now, although still stuck in a wheelchair and far from how she was six months ago, but better. It's only the start however and my 30th birthday is barely weeks away, it's not going to be a good one. My brother's bachelor exams are also postponed till late summer/early fall since it just didn't work out with all what's going on here now.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on June 26, 2008, 07:47:19 PM
Long story short, my mom can't return home since she bound to the wheelchair now and that can't come around here in the house even with all furniture removed and our mom only realised that yesterday when Michael and I visited her and she broke down and cried twice when we were there. I feel like hell so that's why I didn't think when I posted the last two posts, sorry they ruined the mood.
My mom is still clearer in the head after more than 2/3's of her painkillers for nervepain in the legs were taken away, and since she can't walk, or even stand for just 3-4 seconds (her own admittance) then they probably aren't needed anymore. The wheelchair can barely be in the Lancer either, and it's very difficult for me to lift in, in fact, it'll give me backpain after just once.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on July 16, 2008, 01:22:47 PM
Ok, my mom is now home again while we both wait for a new place to live, however she's already back to her old self, trying to get everything done at once and just thinking that she can do without help, or food for that matte which she can't cook herself while in the wheelchair. She's cancelled help from the county, of course (she's done this countless times the last 6 months, as if it wasn't enough of a hazzle trying to convince her to say yes in the first place) and has postponed calling for hot meals to be delivered. She was up later than me, and woke up before me and was trying to stand and pack away heavy things and everything. Michael and I both think that if she won't slow down then she'll end back in the hospital within 1 week.
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on July 20, 2008, 09:11:05 PM
Ok, my mom so far has avoided accident, and gone back to understanding the need for a place with better help, but now, just a few minutes ago, around 11 pm, I get a call from my brother. He's in the emergency room, heavily doped up on morfin (danish spelling, can't remember the english one), a car hit him on his motorcycle in an intersection and his foot is broken and might need surgury tonight, driver said to the police she didn't see him. His motorcycle also sounds like a write-off.
::banghead::
Frank
Title: Re: Another update on our situation
Post by: Frank N. O. on July 20, 2008, 11:51:01 PM
I've exchanged some sms' with my brother and he's been moved to a ward where he will have his foot operated on soon, probably within a few hours (it's 01:41 atm (24 hour time)). He's getting all the morfine he wants to try and kill the pain. And he'd only just gotten his just less than 6 month old bike serviced and gotten new tires on (12000 km) and not long ago had an alarm fitted and now it's wrecked. His bachelor also has to be postponed, but at least he did get the jobs to make up for the financial goverment study aid in the summer vacation before the accident.
